Eva Mendes calls Ryan Gosling a ‘wonderful father’ after fans question his involvement with their daughters
Eva Mendes has defended ‘wonderful father’ Ryan Gosling, after her Instagram followers questioned his involvement with their two daughters.
The actress spoke out after sparking speculation about her long-term partner’s role with a post in which she talked of losing sleep while pulling together a birthday celebration for her youngest daughter on Wednesday,
While the majority of her 2.2 million followers praised the star’s honesty about parental exhaustion, a few slammed her for ‘stereotyping’ and ‘assuming it’s always the female that carry all the home’s work load.’
Instead of clapping back at the commentators, who noted her recent caption made her sound like a ‘single mother’ and that Gosling ‘doesn’t help,’ the 46-year-old actress responded with an ‘honest answer.’
Defensive: After Eva Mendes revealed she lost sleep pulling together a special birthday bash for her youngest daughter on Wednesday, fans questioned her longtime partner Ryan Gosling’s involvement
‘I love women. I’m a girls’ girl. I love connecting to women,’ she wrote. ‘That’s mainly why I have this page. So when I say I’m a ‘tired mama’ and want to connect to other ‘tired mamas’it’s not about excluding the fathers or other caregivers that do so much.
She added, ‘It’s just me connecting to other women but in no way does it de-value what papas do.’
The Hitch star, who shares Esmeralda, five, and four-year-old Amanda with the La La Land actor, cited privacy as the reason she doesn’t ‘talk about Ryan and all the wonderful things he does as a father.’
Proud parents: The Hitch star, who shares Esmeralda, five, and four-year-old Esmeralda with Gosling, cited privacy as the reason she doesn’t ‘talk about Ryan and all the wonderful things he does as a father’; pictured in 2013
Questioning: A number of fans slammed Eva for ‘stereotyping’ and ‘assuming it’s always the female that carry all the home’s work load’
‘I don’t want to involve him or how he parents because I don’t feel comfortable crossing that boundary that I have set for myself. I feel it’s best that I continue to disclose what I’m comfortable with but not involve him or my kids too much,’ she wrote.
The mother-of-two pointed out ‘it’s not about being cagey or weird,’ but about ‘staying private in a public space.’
She asked: ‘Does that make sense? Hope so. Because this is my honest answer and I really do love connecting to you women.’
‘I don’t want to involve him or how he parents because I don’t feel comfortable crossing that boundary that I have set for myself. I feel it’s best that I continue to disclose what I’m comfortable with but not involve him or my kids too much,’ she wrote
Boundaries: The mother-of-two says ‘it’s not about being cagey or weird,’ but about ‘staying private in a public space’; pictured in February
Her caption that sparked the criticism vented about being a ‘tired mama.’
‘Stayed up laaate trying to make my baby’s 4th birthday extra special since she won’t see the family,’ she wrote, before receiving backlash.
Earlier this week she also expanded on having a ‘clear boundary’ about what’s off limits and what she will share.
‘I’ll talk about them, of course, with limits, but I won’t post pictures of our daily life,’ she said of her immediate family.
Friends first: Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes already knew each other before starring in The Place Beyond the Pines; seen in the 2011 film
Eva and Ryan have been together for over eight years.
‘I never knew that life could be this fun and this great,’ The Notebook star told People in 2015 of his family life. ‘It’s heaven. It’s like walking through a field of flowers every day. I live with angels.’
After having her daughters, Mendes took a break from her film career to raise Gosling’s girls and admits she’s a total ‘helicopter parent.’